Porn Doesn’t RUIN SHIT!


Over the years, I’ve heard so many negative things about porn movies:

  • “It’ll destroy your moral compass”
  • “It gets you fired from work”
  • “It ruined my life !”
  • “It makes you an addict”
  • “It Exploits Women“
    But the one myth that REALLY sticks out is: It ruins marriages
      Say it with me:

“Bullshit!”

 

None, I repeat NONE of the crap on that list above is the reason anything falls apart. Let’s chop this list into a million pieces, shall we?

“It’ll destroy your moral compass”

Oh, really? What else will it destroy? My Nose? My Dick? Will I grow hair on my hands and my eyeballs melt out of their sockets?

Bitch Please.

You – the person who is reading this, is responsible for your own Moral Compass. When you were a kid, your parents were responsible for it’s development. Now that you are all grown up, it’s yours to do with as you please. If you point your Compass in the wrong direction, and shit gets funky because of it, Its your own damn fault. Porn is NOT to blame.

 

–“It gets you fired from work”

Ah, so it’s the one that’s been stealing toner, and taking all those Post-It notes. And wasting time talking it up at the Water Cooler?

No, methinks not.

In a recent survey, 3% of the American Workforce watches porn clips, movies and Images while at work. Now I’ll admit: I am quite the watcher of Adult Films, but I also feel there is a time and place for everything. I really don’t think watching porn while working is a wise idea – unless you are working in the adult entertainment industry, in which case would be just fine.

Think about it: what if you were handling heavy machinery at work – and no, I don’t mean yours or someone else’s dick – I’m talking about A saw, or a crane, a Automobile, or just something impossibly sharp as fuck. Just like before, it was your idea to watch smut while you work: if you become a work hazard or lost a limb or two, or if someone else either loses a limb, or even death, It’s all your fault. “Big wet butts 2” had nothing to do with that at all.

–“Porn ruined my life”

How exactly is your life ruined? What happened? What did you do before and after you watched your awesome porno flick?

Does any of those questions matter? Um… fuck yes!

I’ve found that people who say that, that, and the other “Ruined their lives” – it’s just a shitload of drama that on one really wants to hear and/or deal with. It also sounds lazy – you make your life into whatever you want it to be. your life is yours to do with as you please. If you fuck that up, your to blame for it.

Cut the dramatics, and get your crap together.

 

–“It makes you an addict”

Oh here we go – for some weird ass reason, Porn somehow has an addictive quality to it. It’s become kind of “Digital Cocaine” – once you’ve had a hit, you’re hooked on it, and will do anything to get a fix.

A quick definition on Addiction, as stated in the Wikipedia:

Historically, addiction has been defined as physical and psychological dependence on psychoactive substances (for example alcohol, tobacco, heroin and other drugs) which cross the blood-brain barrier once ingested, temporarily altering the chemical milieu of the brain.

Addiction can also be viewed as a continued involvement with a substance or activity despite the negative consequences associated with it. Pleasure and enjoyment would have originally been sought; however, over a period of time involvement with the substance or activity is needed to feel normal. Some psychology professionals and many laypeople now mean ‘addiction’ to include abnormal psychological dependency on such things as gambling, food, sex, pornography, computers, internet, work, exercise, idolizing, watching TV or certain types of non-pornographic videos, spiritual obsession, self-injury and shopping.

The American Society of Addiction Medicine begins their definition of addiction by describing it as “a primary, chronic disease of brain reward, motivation, memory and related circuitry.”

As you just read, it’s possible to become addicted to several different things…but, did you see the part where the thing you’re addicted to is making you an addict?

Read it again if you must. You won’t see it and I can’t highlight it – because it’s not there. Nothing in this world makes you an addict but you. You have a problem, and its causing you pain, and instead of dealing with it head on, or getting help dealing with it, you focus on something to take the pain away, thus, the addiction begins.

Dude…

Now I’m not making light about this – I don’t see myself an addict to anything, but I’m sure that being addicted to something must be hell, and dealing with it must be a real pain, but to blame the object of your addiction as to why things go wrong is just a waste of time and effort, and it just makes dealing with it that much harder and longer to do.

Porn doesn’t make you an addict – you do. You sought relief, you got it, and you can’t give it up, and its up to you to kick the habit.

 

–“It Exploits Women”

Look it, Women are NOT exploited in the adult entertainment industry. It’s not destroying women in the industry, and it’s NOT ruining women’s lives.

Look at it this way: If you take away the cameras, lights, story line and makeup, what do you have?

People having sex. Millions of Grown men and women are having sex without the use of cameras, and I’m pretty sure that most them are thoroughly enjoying themselves.

I think the reason why some people, especially women think that porn is exploitive to women is because of confusion between the Adult Entertainment industry, and the practice of Forced Prostitution.

Here is the Wikipedia version of Forced prostitution:

Forced prostitution, also known as involuntary prostitution, is the act of performing sexual activity in exchange for money on a non-voluntary basis. There are a wide range of entry routes into prostitution, ranging from “voluntary and deliberate” entry, “semi-voluntary” based on pressure of circumstances, and “involuntary” recruitment via outright force or coercion. Sexual slavery encompasses most, if not all, forms of forced prostitution. The terms “forced prostitution” or “enforced prostitution” appear in international and humanitarian conventions but have been insufficiently understood and inconsistently applied. “Forced prostitution” refers to conditions of control over a person who is coerced by another to engage in sexual activity.

You’ll notice that nowhere in that quote is the Adult Entertainment industry mentioned. You can even check out the entry itself on Wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forced_prostitution

To be clear, female performers DO get paid for their work, and live pretty good lives. They are not enslaved, beaten or mistreated in anyway shape or from, and they enjoy what they do.

If their lives take a turn for the worse (which I hope doesn’t happen), you can’t blame porn for it.

 

And now I come to the last item on the list:

–“It ruins marriages”

It bothers me that men and women who are either married or in a relationship split up and say that reason why is “Because of porn”.

Their marriages and because of issues with each other, not porn movies.

I did have a closing for this, but I came across a series of tweets by Adult Film star Nina Mercedez a few weeks ago, and her take on marriage and porn hit the mark perfectly. It was a rant about how porn really isn’t to blame for failed relationships, and that porn can even help spice things up.

With her permission, I took her tweets and put them together into one complete paragraph. They are not edited in any way shape or form:

This lady on the news here in FL is complaining that “Porn” ruined her marriage umm no you ruined your marriage by not being ur husbands Fantasy because you said no to something he wanted in bed, or maybe you aren’t looking the way you did when u 2 got married, Porn doesn’t Ruin your marriage you do. Be open to ur partners requests and if your partner watches porn watch it with them. The couple that plays Together stays together! It’s your job to keep your man interested in you. Men same advice goes to you!

And to put the Cherry on top, Nina Mercedez is happily married and still in the business of Porn.

‘Nuff Said.

Laters

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